Updated: Dec 17, 2022
Over the past 5-6 months, I have had more and more sessions dealing with children, from the age of 4 and above, where the focus is often how to strenghten and support their self-esteem.
These children are often being labelled as immature in classrooms and in interactions with peers. This often by the same people, that should be the last to make them feel labeled or misfitted.
Unfortunately, todays societies and institutions are still not to the needed level of understanding and coping with children outside, what society sees as the norm. We have come a long way with various diagnosis charts. But we still have a lot to do in acknowledging the emphatic, sensitive and intuitive strengths, without gifting them any diagnostic.
In general, society has a tendency to quickly label those who are different from what is considered "normal". The key point being, they are judged by what they do (act and react) and not seen through the bigger lens of who they are deep down.
This could be anything from someone who talks back to the authorities, who acts with lack of judgment or impulsively - seen from the eyes of logic. Or even someone who adresses situation from a different angle than majority, or maybe just is not interested In what is expected of their age.
You see, all these children, that are being labelled as different, are often highly intuitive, sensitive and emphatic children. Meaning that they opperate less from the human conditioning, social constuct and teachings, but rather from their higher consciousness and soul.
In other words, they are more connected to a soulful world perception than a human conditioned one. This will currently always create an issue. Since our societies are humanly designed, and rely more on the logical perspective, enhancing evidence-based teachings and experiences, etc.
This created by the general human level of logical thinking, rather than being built on the understanding and enhancement of the power of intuitive and emphatically skills, we humans also posses.
Intuitive and sensitive children are more atune to their surroundings and will be more easily overwhelmed by the environment around them. They may also
have a hard time picking up on social cues set up by the human conditioning, which then cause them to appear immature in their behaviour.
Thus, leading to misunderstandings and make it difficult for them to understand why they're being punished or disciplined when they don’t understand what they did wrong. As they only acted and reacted on the underlying energies, and not the human logic.
They also might find it difficult to see people’s outer thoughts and feelings, since they're so attuned to the environment around them and the inner emotions, thoughts and feelings of a person. Thus, it all becomes overwhelming, which again can lead to misunderstandings with others. Especially, if people are not being true to their own inner emotions.
Why, the sensitivity to nuances of these children is often mistaken for immaturity, but they just have a different way of perceiving things.
How can Parents Help their Highly Sensitive kids with emotionally Immature Behaviours?
There are many benefits to being highly intuitive and sensitive - such as creativity and empathy - but there can also arise challenges, like having higher levels of anxiety or even depression. Why it is important to not jump to conclusions.
Parents should understand that a highly intuitive child isn't to be defined through the human social dimensions. Why no normative psychological and pedagogical theories and tools are enough.
These intuitive and sensitive children have a different way of perceiving the world and they are more emotional than other kids. Why it's most important that you sit with your child in silence and start observing them, in order to identify what are specifically signs allocated your child.
Parents should be aware of their child’s needs and help them develop coping mechanisms. One such mechanism is to teach them how to regulate their intuitive skills in a healthy way. And maybe even seek likeminded through peers and strengthening courses, so their child can mirror themselves in other intuitive children.
Parents should also focus less on how they can make their children fit into the norm or boxes of society. But rather educate themselves on what it means to be highly intuitive and sensitive, and advocate it.